Have you ever met someone and instantly fallen in love with who they are and everything they stand for? Well, that’s exactly what happened when I met Polly Whittaker. She popped into the sexy shop where I work looking to speak to the owner and leave a copy of her book, Polly Sex Culture Revolutionary. The owner wasn’t in the shop that day but I was. It was kismet. Fifteen minutes and one hug later; I was dazzled by her awesomeness. I began reading her book the next day, and I was instantly inspired.
I had been in dire need of a push to keep on doing what I’m doing, and it came to me in the form Polly Superstar. Polly is the type of person I’d like to be when I grow up; passionate, effervescent, and focused on making the world a better place by spreading the gospel of sex positivity and pleasure. I am honored to be a part of her Revolutionary Blog Tour along with so many awesome sex positive people. I love sharing the amazing people I meet with all of you, and I know you’ll fall for Polly just like I did.
“Follow your dreams and magic will happen.”- Polly Whittaker
1. You describe yourself as a 21st century sex culture revolutionary. What exactly is a sex culture revolutionary, and how can I become one?
Lola, you’re already a sex culture revolutionary! We are people who passionately believe that culture’s relationship to sex is unbalanced, and we work tirelessly to help change that. We are sex educators, porn producers, sex party hosts, bloggers, activists, comedians, and performers. The sexual revolution isn’t something that happened in the ‘60s, it’s an active part of our culture that continues to this day. The last fifty years have seen so much change, as the revolution continues to turn it needs people like us to push it forward. I believe that when we live in a society where sex isn’t shameful or wrong, people will be happier and healthier.
2.The main reason I created Sex Ed. A Go-Go was to spark more sex positive conversations outside of the sex positive community. What are your thoughts on this new wave of sex positive educators and activist, and what could we be doing better?
I think it’s inspiring. In a country where abstinence only sex education in schools has been the norm, independent sex educators are sometimes the only access to real information teenagers have. The internet is what has made this possible, with podcasters, youtubers and bloggers sharing their opinions and ideas. The only potential pitfall I can see is an internet-wide problem, and that’s quality control. With so many conflicting opinions it can sometimes be tough to figure out what’s true. That’s why I love what you’re doing. By creating a blog that isn’t just about sex education, but about the educators themselves, you are providing a needed service to help people vet the quality of the information they are tuning into.
3. What made you decide to finally chronicle your amazing life?
When I first started writing it wasn’t a memoir. It was a manual, teaching people how to throw Kinky Salons. I realized that people responded better when I told them the stories about why something was done in a particular way rather than just telling them how to do it. So I started writing the stories about all the different elements of Kinky Salon. Then one day I had writers block and I followed the advice of a friend—just write about anything to get your creativity flowing. I wrote about my father’s death. It was the most powerful thing I had ever written and I realized that this was the story that needed to be told. The real story behind the sexiness and the good times. It completely changed the direction of the book which became a much more personal story.
4. What do you hope to accomplish by sharing your story?
When I wrote down my story it was really just an act of making art. I wasn’t thinking about my audience or my target market. I just needed to write, to get it out. The process of writing and editing the book was very healing. I faced some truths about myself, and my past, and made connections I never would have made without writing the book. Writing it down revealed what the book was about, not the other way around. If I can reach one person who had a similar experience, who can be comforted or inspired by reading my story, then I consider myself successful.
5. Who are you hoping your book reaches?
I want my book to reach people who never thought they would be able to relate to my story. I want to demystify the world I live in and break apart long held assumptions. I know that I’ve had a pretty unconventional life. My liberal parents and my artistic streak definitely give me a unique outlook, but there are some stories that are universal. Loss of a parent and heartbreak are common themes for people. We have all experienced these situations to lesser or greater degrees. I want to find the places where I connect with people more than I want to explore the differences. If my story can touch people who feel ashamed, or sad, or desperate, and help them know that there are people out there who feel the same way, then I will have achieved something meaningful and worthwhile.This post is part of the Polly: Sex Culture Revolutionary Virtual Book Tour. If you make a comment in the thread below you’ll be automatically entered in a chance to WIN a LIMITED EDITION signed hardcover copy of Polly: Sex Culture Revolutionary. The comedian Margaret Cho called it “Raw, untamed, emotional beauty–Polly is a true supernova. This memoir is as touching as it is hot, as moving as it is a masterpiece.” Buy your copy of Polly: Sex Culture Revolutionary bit.ly/pollybook Join Polly’s mailing list bit.ly/pollyslist Check out Polly’s website pollysuperstar.com Follow Polly on Twitter twitter.com/pollysuperstar Get updates from Polly on Facebook facebook.com/itsmepolly Click the image below to check out the other exciting stops on the tour.
Last week I did a guest spot on the I’m Black, He’s White podcast along with our show’s producer Gill. Listen along as Gill and I discuss polyamory, Geraldo Rivera and butt stuff with Wali and The Domster. Surprisingly not my weirdest conversation ever.
Featuring Francisco Ramirez and Kristen Lee, live from NYC 9/25/14.
Sex Ed. A Go-Go is taking the month of December off. Never fear, we’ll be posting another episode of our podcast this month so you’ll still get your Sex Ed. A Go-Go fix!! We’ll be back in January with more answers to your questions and lots of shenanigans! Until then enjoy this pic of me with Naughty Santa and get your giggle on.
We seem to be just a wee bit obsessed with Pony Play. It came up again during this month’s show thanks to Francisco Ramirez’s fabulous equestrian outfit, and now I have pony on the brain. Don’t you want to give her a sugar cube??
The PROvember Project is dedicated to the education and celebration of prostate health and pleasure. Yay pleasure!!!! I personally don’t have a prostate AKA p-spot, but I adore those that do. I’ve been sharing the gospel of the p-spot with the men in my life for years, so when Lucas approached me about contributing to the PROvember Project I jumped at the chance to talk about p-spot fun. Since I’m a bit of a sex toy geek I’ve decided to share a few of my favorite prostate stimulators with you, but before you begin exploring with any of these fantastic toys I suggest you check out Let’s Talk About Sex’s Male G-Spot Bible. It’s a great introduction to p-spot fun. It’s short, sweet, and to the point. I also suggest you watch the PROvember Project’s Prostate Pro-Tips videos with Lucas and Strap-On Jo. Awesome tips and valuable prostate wisdom at your finger tips. (*Giggles* Pun intended )
Now, on to the toys!!!
For The Beginner: Aneros Helix Syn
The Aneros Helix Syn is the perfect toy for beginner p-spot explorers for many reasons. It’s modest size makes for easy insertion. The thick silicone coating over it’s rigid frame means you get a bit of give without loss of firmness. The silicone covered perineum massager (AKA comfort tab) adds external sensation when the Helix Syn is fully inserted and the handy little curved arm makes it easy to grip.
- Ergonomic design
- Premium silicone coating
- Flared base (No late night toy removal trips to the ER for you!)
- Comfort tab / perineum massager
- Easy insertion
- Because it’s made with mixed materials (portions of the toy are not silicone coated) you can’t boil it to sterilize it. No sterilization means no sharing.
The Multitasker : Tantus Pro Touch
With it’s “come hither” finger shape and flared base the Tantus Pro Touch can do a little bit of everything. If you’re craving sensation you can slip the included mini bullet vibe into the base of the Pro Touch and turn it into a vibrating prostate massager. When used without the mini bullet It can be slipped on to a finger and used as a manual prostate massager. Last but not least, it’s flared base makes the Pro Touch harness compatible. The perfect introduction to strap-on play.
- Made from 100% silicone
- Harness compatible
- Can also be used for g-spot play
- Easy to clean- If you plan on sharing the Pro Touch with your partner be sure to sanitize it by boiling or bleaching it first. The Pro Touch is also dishwasher safe.
- Pops out easily and needs to be held in place when not using it with a strap-on
- The mini bullet is easily switch off during play with can be frustrating if it happens at the wrong time.
The Luxury Item: Lelo Billy
At first glance Lelo’s Billy appears to be yet another fancy lady vibe, but if you take a closer look you’ll see that it’s designed to target and stimulate the p-spot with ease. The four inch long shaft with it’s smooth, curved silicone form and ring at the base make it the ideal shape and rigidity for p-spot play. But what makes the Billy a luxury, besides it’s price, are it’s six vibration patterns with adjustable speeds. These modes are controlled by four easily detectable buttons that are located right where your fingers rest on the handle.
- 100% Rechargeable (Charger included)
- Extremely quiet
- Six significantly different vibration modes
- 1 year warranty, 10 quality guarantee
- May be too wide for anal play newbies
- Cannot be sterilized ( but you could always place a condom over it if you’d like to share it with your partner)
*All of the toys listed above are either 100% silicone have silicone components. Always use water based lube when using any of them. NO SILICONE LUBE!!!
Any of these toys would be a great addition to your p-spot toy box. They are all available in the PROvember Project’s P-Spot Shop along with twenty other incredible prostate toys.Have fun and remember……. Live Long and Prostate!!
November has become synonymous with men’s health issue awareness, mainly prostate health, thanks to the great success of the Movember campaign. Awareness is a wonderful thing, but one has to wonder if all of those sexy mustachioed men know what to do with all that awareness. That’s where the PROvember Project comes in. Created by the Intellectual Homosexual himself, Lucas Brooks, the PROvember Project brings education and information to the awareness party. Lucas has rounded up some of his favorite sex geeks, including yours truly, to bring you prostate tutorials, pleasure tips, toy reviews, giveaways and much more!
Check out the PROvember Project site for more information on the project. Until then, live long and prostate!! ( I totally stole that from Lucas. Sex Geeks Rule!! )
I always enjoy working with Foxy. I love seeing her costumes and I always look forward to her go-go numbers, but the best part of working with Foxy is having her big beautiful brain on display as part of the Pussy Posse. She’s absolutely amazing. A spectacle you don’t want to miss!
After completing the burlesque class series by Deflouered Productions, Foxy gathered her wits and talent to begin performing. Her first performance residence was Rivers of Honey Cabaret and she was a regular performer at Matthew Silver’s Circus of Dreams and Crimson Kitty’s Cataclysm. Her artistic skill has been shared both nationally and internationally in London, Connecticut, California, Rhode Island, Massachusetts, North Carolina, Georgia (DragonCon), Florida, Philadelphia, and NYC. Foxy’s first headliner performance was in May 2013 at the DC Gurly Show (Washington, DC). This year she is proud to be the first black performer for NYC’s first all female drag show, Crimson Kitty presents FAUXVASION. Her motto is EMBRACE YOUR SPECTACLE. Now, she shares her love for deviant art and dark beauty through burlesque.
Catch the ever lovely Foxy Squire on stage on November 22nd at the Parkside Lounge. We’re celebrating our anniversary and what better way to do it than with this delightful diva of the shimmy and shake. 😉
Featuring Francisco Ramirez and Sweet Lorraine, live from NYC 7/25/14.
@FranciscoNYC – http://franciscoramirez.org