When the incredible photographer duo Constance and Eric asked me to participate in their Sexuality Superhero project I jumped at the chance. It was a joy working with the two of them. I am honored that they asked me to participate and happy that my incessant giggling didn’t ruin the shoot. Hurrah!
New York is about to get a case of the cooties!!!! Our friend Lucas Brooks, Mr. Intellectual Homosexual himself is hitting the Fringe theater circuit hardcore this year. He’s taking his one man show Cootie Catcher on tour all across North America and it kicks off Thursday, February 19th at Frigid New York.
“In this hilarious and borderline-terrifying reflection, Lucas looks back on his many close encounters of the sexually transmissible kind. Through his naked (yet carefully wrapped) adventures, he struggles with his ability to remain sex-positive in an HIV-negative society.”
If you’re in NY don’t miss this show, I know I won’t!! If you’re lucky enough to be in the towns Cootie Catcher is hitting, keep your eye out for ticket info!
For New York show dates and ticket information visit FrigidNewYork.info
Stay tuned for my review!!
Rounding out this month’s Pussy Posse is an amazing woman I met at the Whoopee Magazine release party ( She’s the sexy centerfold in the new issue!!) Miss Brownie Pointe is a bright and shining beacon of permission for body positivity. She’s going to get her shimmy and shake on and answer your questions……. that’s if your brain is still working after seeing her doing thing.
Miss Brownie Pointe, the sweet treat you have to meet, has been enticing audiences for years. Obtaining immense pleasure from seducing a crowd with her slapstick acts and bodacious curves, Brownie found her way into the New York burlesque scene while looking for a new, body positive creative outlet. Armed with a goofball attitude and her tongue firmly planted in her cheek, Miss Pointe has found her calling… THE STAGE! When her muggle life isn’t keeping her busy, she can often be found showcasing her flair for the comedic side of performance art, with a special love for creating acts related to some of her favorite characters in pop culture including everything from Bill Murray’s infamous role in Caddyshack to the lovable stoner Travis Birkenstock in Clueless. Packing more sass, class, ASS and laughs into 4 minutes, Brownie is challenging the way her onlookers perceive sexuality and size with a demanding level of confidence and an infectious smile to boot!
Our long hiatus is almost over, and we’re kicking off the 2015 season of Sex Ed. A Go with one of my favorite sex positive peeps, the lovely Kelly Frost!!
Kelly Frost is the creator and editor of Whoopee Magazine, a bi-annual print publication with a focus on sex and sexuality based in Brooklyn, NY. As a childcare provider and soon-to-be public school teacher, her mission is to provide a safe space for body-positivity and othered individuals of all ages.
Do you like sex, go-go dancing and funny ladies with amazing cleavage? Then you should definitely join us for the next installment of Sex Ed. A Go-Go at Otto’s Shrunken Head!!! Sex Ed. A-Go-Go is one part ADULT sex Q & A; one part go-go revue. Once a month Dirty Lola and The Pussy Posse take the stage to openly and honestly answer your anonymous questions about sex, sexuality and relationships in a fun and entertaining way. In between the sex talk we showcase some of NY’s hottest go-go and burlesque performers doing their thing.
We’re back from our winter hibernation and we have a new home! This will be our very first show of 2015!!! We’re going to celebrate by doing what we do best, so get ready to be educated and titillated by Dirty Lola and the Pussy Posse!!
This month’s Pussy Posse special guest is the creator and editor of Whoopee Magazine, Kelly Frost!!! We’re going to talk about EVERYTHING and ANYTHING your sexy little hearts (and loins) desire!!
Otto’s Shrunken Head
538 East 14th Street, New York, NY 10009
$10 At The Door
2 Drink Minimum
Make sure you have lots of singles for our giver of go-go goodness, the amazing Miss Brownie Pointe, and for our awesome raffle sponsored by SHAG Brooklyn!!!
Last year, while searching for gigs on Craigslist I happened upon a call for submissions to a new sex positive zine called Whoopee Magazine. I answered the call and I made a friend.
Whoopee Magazine, created and edited by the fantastic Kelly Frost, is a print publication celebrating and investigating relationships, gender, sex, and sexuality. It’s an awesome piece of sex positive sunshine and you should check it out. Not just because I love Kelly, but because Whoopee is another beautiful voice in the sex positive choir and it needs our support.
Featuring Sophie Delancey and Lucas Brooks aka “Lucky Charming”, live from NYC 10/31/14.
As I’ve journeyed into the world of sex ed I’ve met and learned from some amazing people. One of those people is Cooper S. Beckett. Cooper is a sex educator, a blogger, a podcaster and a planner of epic sex parties. If his name still isn’t ringing a bell do yourself a favor and check out the Life on the Swingset podcast and blog. They are a definite must listen for anyone considering a life of ethical non-monogamy.
Last year at Catalyst Con West I had the pleasure of hanging out with Cooper for a while and it was refreshing to see that he was exactly as awesome as he comes across on the podcast and in print. He is honest, open, geeky, funny, and smart as fuck. He ticks all the boxes on my list of reasons to adore someone. I went from fan girl to friend that weekend. I liked him so much that I told him my real name. Yep.
Yesterday, Cooper’s first book, My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory, hit the digital bookshelves. I was lucky enough to get an advanced copy and I honestly couldn’t put it down. As I followed Cooper’s journey into non-monogamy I came across so many moments that mirrored my own, a few that hit way too close to home, and hope that it will all work out in the end one way or another. This book is going to change a lot of people’s lives. Get in on the ground floor folks! One day you’ll be bragging about owning Cooper S. Beckett’s first book.
You did it!! You published your first book! Yay!! How does it feel to be published author?
It’s exciting! I can finally reach those people who don’t read blogs. And don’t listen to podcasts. Though I’ve yet to figure out how to get them to find out about the book! It’s a cool feeling, sitting with a book in your hands that you wrote. I’m intensely proud of how this one shook out, too. Came together far better than I could’ve imagined.
In your book you say that you are “ very positively, very certainly, not cool.” You know that I always thought you were cool, and that this book pretty much solidifies your cool kid status in my book. How do you feel about that?
Well, while I certainly appreciate being called cool, I can’t allow myself to take on that title. Cool is such a funny thing, isn’t it, completely objective, and completely existing outside you. For that essay I’m definitely using cool in the traditional high school hierarchy sense, and in that sense I’m still very much not cool. Played my first Dungeons and Dragons campaign this past week, so any semblance of cool I’ve built up, I think I effectively pulled the ripcord on it. We’re the misfits and losers that Hedwig talks about, the strange and unusual of Lydia Deetz, but very certainly not cool.
My Life on the Swingset is basically a compilation of your writings from the last five years. Who or what inspired you to finally compile your various writings and rantings into one book?
When I saw the sheer volume of words I’d put out and felt compelled (and misguided) to try something “easy” for my first book. I think it was far more difficult to compile and edit and mold the pre-existing content to work together than it would’ve been to write something new. I’ve felt for a while now that it was time to push things to the next level, and a book is the way to do it. This also allows it to act as a semi-memoir. A semoir.
Who’s bookshelves do you hope your books end up on? Did you have a particular audience in mind when you were putting the book together?
If my book is on any of the shelves of the authors whose books line my shelves I would consider it such a great honor. Just knowing that some of the luminaries in our adult sex education field (as well as my two favorite porn stars) have read and loved my book is an incredibly surreal experience. Beyond them I’ve written it to be very accessible. Since it’s in essay form, there may be 60 out of the 75 essays that you can connect with, and that’s just fine. You can skip over things that are overwhelming or scary. You can read it straight through (semoir style, I suppose) or jump around reading the essays that sound interesting. Accessibility is great, because it allows for those who are just vaguely curious about non-monogamy to pick it up without melting their face off like Toht at the end of Raiders of the Lost Ark.
What is one thing you hope people learn from reading My Life on the Swingset?
It’s not something I hope that they learn so much as something they already know that they often forget, that sex is fun. That’s my whole deal, really, that we do this thing, we play, because we enjoy it, because it’s fun. There’s no other reason to do it this way. Procreation is the one part, but if you have sex beyond that, it’s for fun. Too often that message gets lost in the din of conflict and oppression and difficulty, but it’s really what we’re doing it all for, to be appreciated, respected, and enjoy the fuck out of ourselves and others!
Have you ever met someone and instantly fallen in love with who they are and everything they stand for? Well, that’s exactly what happened when I met Polly Whittaker. She popped into the sexy shop where I work looking to speak to the owner and leave a copy of her book, Polly Sex Culture Revolutionary. The owner wasn’t in the shop that day but I was. It was kismet. Fifteen minutes and one hug later; I was dazzled by her awesomeness. I began reading her book the next day, and I was instantly inspired.
I had been in dire need of a push to keep on doing what I’m doing, and it came to me in the form Polly Superstar. Polly is the type of person I’d like to be when I grow up; passionate, effervescent, and focused on making the world a better place by spreading the gospel of sex positivity and pleasure. I am honored to be a part of her Revolutionary Blog Tour along with so many awesome sex positive people. I love sharing the amazing people I meet with all of you, and I know you’ll fall for Polly just like I did.
“Follow your dreams and magic will happen.”- Polly Whittaker
1. You describe yourself as a 21st century sex culture revolutionary. What exactly is a sex culture revolutionary, and how can I become one?
Lola, you’re already a sex culture revolutionary! We are people who passionately believe that culture’s relationship to sex is unbalanced, and we work tirelessly to help change that. We are sex educators, porn producers, sex party hosts, bloggers, activists, comedians, and performers. The sexual revolution isn’t something that happened in the ‘60s, it’s an active part of our culture that continues to this day. The last fifty years have seen so much change, as the revolution continues to turn it needs people like us to push it forward. I believe that when we live in a society where sex isn’t shameful or wrong, people will be happier and healthier.
2.The main reason I created Sex Ed. A Go-Go was to spark more sex positive conversations outside of the sex positive community. What are your thoughts on this new wave of sex positive educators and activist, and what could we be doing better?
I think it’s inspiring. In a country where abstinence only sex education in schools has been the norm, independent sex educators are sometimes the only access to real information teenagers have. The internet is what has made this possible, with podcasters, youtubers and bloggers sharing their opinions and ideas. The only potential pitfall I can see is an internet-wide problem, and that’s quality control. With so many conflicting opinions it can sometimes be tough to figure out what’s true. That’s why I love what you’re doing. By creating a blog that isn’t just about sex education, but about the educators themselves, you are providing a needed service to help people vet the quality of the information they are tuning into.
3. What made you decide to finally chronicle your amazing life?
When I first started writing it wasn’t a memoir. It was a manual, teaching people how to throw Kinky Salons. I realized that people responded better when I told them the stories about why something was done in a particular way rather than just telling them how to do it. So I started writing the stories about all the different elements of Kinky Salon. Then one day I had writers block and I followed the advice of a friend—just write about anything to get your creativity flowing. I wrote about my father’s death. It was the most powerful thing I had ever written and I realized that this was the story that needed to be told. The real story behind the sexiness and the good times. It completely changed the direction of the book which became a much more personal story.
4. What do you hope to accomplish by sharing your story?
When I wrote down my story it was really just an act of making art. I wasn’t thinking about my audience or my target market. I just needed to write, to get it out. The process of writing and editing the book was very healing. I faced some truths about myself, and my past, and made connections I never would have made without writing the book. Writing it down revealed what the book was about, not the other way around. If I can reach one person who had a similar experience, who can be comforted or inspired by reading my story, then I consider myself successful.
5. Who are you hoping your book reaches?
I want my book to reach people who never thought they would be able to relate to my story. I want to demystify the world I live in and break apart long held assumptions. I know that I’ve had a pretty unconventional life. My liberal parents and my artistic streak definitely give me a unique outlook, but there are some stories that are universal. Loss of a parent and heartbreak are common themes for people. We have all experienced these situations to lesser or greater degrees. I want to find the places where I connect with people more than I want to explore the differences. If my story can touch people who feel ashamed, or sad, or desperate, and help them know that there are people out there who feel the same way, then I will have achieved something meaningful and worthwhile.This post is part of the Polly: Sex Culture Revolutionary Virtual Book Tour. If you make a comment in the thread below you’ll be automatically entered in a chance to WIN a LIMITED EDITION signed hardcover copy of Polly: Sex Culture Revolutionary. The comedian Margaret Cho called it “Raw, untamed, emotional beauty–Polly is a true supernova. This memoir is as touching as it is hot, as moving as it is a masterpiece.” Buy your copy of Polly: Sex Culture Revolutionary bit.ly/pollybook Join Polly’s mailing list bit.ly/pollyslist Check out Polly’s website pollysuperstar.com Follow Polly on Twitter twitter.com/pollysuperstar Get updates from Polly on Facebook facebook.com/itsmepolly Click the image below to check out the other exciting stops on the tour.
Last week I did a guest spot on the I’m Black, He’s White podcast along with our show’s producer Gill. Listen along as Gill and I discuss polyamory, Geraldo Rivera and butt stuff with Wali and The Domster. Surprisingly not my weirdest conversation ever.