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May is National Masturbation Month!

These are a few of my favorite things! From Left: Tantus Hoss, Hitachi Magic Wand, Njoy Pure Wand

May is national masturbation month!! Take this time to treat yourself to something nice, like an orgasm or six. Put on some Aqua Lung, light a few candles,break out your favorite toys, and practice a little self lovin. Go ahead! It’s good for you!!! 

xoxoxo

Lola

P.S. It’s okay if solo sex isn’t your thing. It isn’t easy for everyone and that’s okay. You’re not broken. You’re not alone.  Have qustions? Ask away! Lola@SexEdAGoGo.com

The Magic of Smutalingus

D Hubs and I putting Smutalingus to the test.
D Hubs and I putting Smutalingus to the test.

Smutalingus:

Smut – a – lin – gus

n. The act of reading smut to one self or aloud while receiving cunnilingus.

Cunnilingus was never my favorite sex act. Nope. It just wasn’t. Over the years many of my partners have tried to change my mind, both men and women, but to no avail. I always felt so awkward just laying there. I never knew what to do with my hands, and honestly I would get bored. It was just too hard to focus on the pleasure I was receiving while feeling so awkward.

That all changed a couple of weeks ago when a Twitter friend suggested I try reading a smutty story while being orally pleasured. It made perfect sense! A sexy distraction that occupied my hands AND my brain……. Genius! So I asked D. Hubs if he wanted to give it a try. I was worried he’d be insulted by the whole idea, but he was actually excited to give it a try. I love that man.

At first it was a little weird. It took us a minute to find a position that would be comfortable for both of us once we realized that the book would block Hubs view. After a lot of shifting and a  fit of giggles we were off. The awkwardness melted away as soon as I started reading. For the first time ever I was enjoying receiving oral sex. Reading a sexy story while my husband happily explored my pussy was and is one of the sexiest things I’ve ever tried.

I still don’t enjoy cunnilingus, but I LOVE smutalingus. It was a total game changer for me. I have another sexy tool in my tool box that I’m excited to try it with other partners, and one less sex thing to feel awkward about. YAY for less awkwardness around sex!!

I hope this inspires some of you to keep exploring and trying new thing on your own or with a partner. Enjoy your weekend!

xoxo

Lola

*The book pictured is Come Again: Sex Toy Erotica, edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel. You can get your sexy little hands all over it over it now on Amazon!

Review: Lucas Brooks’ Cootie Catcher

Two months ago I wrote about Lucas Brooks’ one man show Cootie Catcher. I also promised a review of said show two months ago. So what took me so long???  Weeeell what happened was……. I missed not one but TWO chances to see the show during its New York run. Luckily, Lucas brought a stripped down abbreviated version to Catalyst Con East, and I made sure I was front row center.

Before beginning the show, Lucas apologized for the lack of music and mini dance breaks (cut due to time constraints) which I was sad to be missing out on, but I’ll tell you now, those things would have only served to make an awesome performance even more so. Even in its stripped down form, Cootie Catcher was thought provoking and engaging. Lucas shares his extensive sex life and his inevitable brushes with STIs with a wink and an impish smile. Using his handy dandy “cootie catcher”, the origami fortune teller we played with as kids, and a little audience participation, he sets up each tale of sex, suspicion, and trips to the clinic. His stories touch on things that many of us have gone through, such as the shame that surrounds having or fearing you have an STI or dealing with ones sexual partner or partners once you’ve received or sometimes not received the dreaded call. They remind us that STIs are like any other illness. Something we all need to remember.

Lucas Brooks entertains and educates while working to remove the stigma that surrounds STIs one story at a time. If you are lucky enough to be in one of the towns Cootie Catcher will be visiting this summer (see below), don’t miss your chance to see an amazing show. If you can’t make it out to a show but want to support Lucas’ amazing work check out his tour fund raiser on Fund What You Can.

Cootie Catcher Tour Schedule

May 13-26:

Orlando International Fringe Festival

June 1-12:
Festival St-Ambroise Fringe de Montreal/Montreal Fringe Festival

July 1-12: 
Toronto Fringe Festival

August 13-23:
Edmonton International Fringe Festival

Next Show: May 7, 2015, 7:00pm @ Otto’s Shrunken Head

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Do you like sex, go-go dancing and funny ladies with amazing cleavage? Then you should definitely join us for the next installment of Sex Ed. A Go-Go at Otto’s Shrunken Head!!!

Sex Ed. A-Go-Go is one part ADULT sex Q & A; one part go-go revue. Once a month Dirty Lola and The Pussy Posse take the stage to openly and honestly answer your anonymous questions about sex, sexuality and relationships in a fun and entertaining way. In between the sex talk we showcase some of NY’s hottest go-go and burlesque performers doing their thing.

We’re back in action and ready to go!! Join us at our new home, Otto’s Shrunken Head, and get ready to be educated and titillated by Dirty Lola and the Pussy Posse!!

This month Rebecca Hiles AKA The Frisky Fairy will be joining the Pussy Posse along with our FAVORITE giver of go-go goodness Sweet Lorraine!! We’re going to talk about any and everything your little hearts ( or loins) desire!!

Tickets: Here

$7 Presale

$10 At The Door

2 Drink Minimum

Make sure you have lots of singles for our giver of go-go goodness, and for our awesome raffle sponsored by SHAG Brooklyn!!!

Meet This Month’s Diva of the Shimmy and Shake: Sweet Lorraine

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Sweet Lorraine and I go back a looooong way. She gave me my first taste of the stage way back when I hosted her burlesque shows, and she has been one of my biggest cheerleaders. I am beyond lucky to have someone so talented and amazing in my corner and I love being able to share her with the rest of the world whenever I can. You won’t want to miss this woman shaking her thang across the stage, nor will you want to miss what she has to say about all things sexy.

Sweet Lorraine is the creator and producer of Shades of Burlesque, New York City’s only all Black burlesque revue!  She has been coined the “Grace Jones of Burlesque” due to her Fierce and Sensual burlesque performances!  She has performed all over the U.S. as a solo performer, as well as a featured dancer with The Sweet Spot, a touring POPular Erotica show.  She is also a former member of Brown Girls Burlesque, a New York City based troupe that highlights performers of color.  Sweet Lorraine is absolutely captivating on stage and always a crowd pleaser!  Find out where she’ll be shimmying next at SweetLorraineBurlesque.Weebly.com.

Catch Sweet Lorraine and the rest of the Pussy Posse at Sex Ed. A Go-Go on May 7th at Otto’s Shrunken Head. Grab your tickets HERE.

Meet Rebecca Hiles AKA The Frisky Fairy

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I briefly met Rebecca last year at Catalyst Con East. That brief meeting led to us rooming together at Catalyst Con West where we became instant BFFs. Seriously. After two hours together people were asking us how long we’ve been friends. That’s how well we clicked. She’s fucking awesome and I’m SUPER happy that I get to share her with all of you!!

Rebecca Hiles is a dating, relationship, and sexual wellness coach called The Frisky Fairy. She is a writer who addresses issues of polyamory, cancer, sex education, and sex toys. She is a regular contributor to Sexpert.com, and has contributed to xoJane.com discussing her life as a polyamorous cancer patient, among other things. She is a member of the Poly Leadership Network, and is certified as a sex educator through Planned Parenthood League of Massachusetts. She was voted one of the Top 100 Sex Blogging Superheroes of 2014. She is currently a student of Dr. Ava Cadell’s Loveology University. She has spoken at CatalystCon West, The ManDATE 2014 Conference, and CatalystCon East, and will be speaking at Atlanta Poly Weekend, Rocky Mountain Poly Living, Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit, and InfinityCon in 2015.

Come out and meet Rebecca and the rest of the Pussy Posse at Sex Ed. A Go-Go’s May 7th show!!!  Grab your tickets HERE!

Meet The Domster and Wali!

The Domster
The Domster

 

Wali
Wali

This month we have a not one but TWO special guests joining the Pussy Posse on stage! I met these guys back in December when I was a guest on their now  late podcast, I’m Black, He’s White. We had an awesome time discussing polyamory and extracurricular sex so it made perfect sense to have them join us on stage.

The Domster was the co-host for the late podcast I’m Black, He’s White and is working on a new outlet for his ruminations and inane tips on life. In the meantime, you can follow him at @MeatPulse, his feed for executive reviews on metal records.

Wali is a lover of wrestling. Lover of podcasts. Lover of sex. Lover of podcasts talking about sex. In that exact order. He was also co-hosted a podcast called I’m Black, He’s White Which is STILL on iTunes.

It’s going to be a crazy night…… Don’t miss it!

The podcast may now be defunct, but it’s still alive on iTunes!! You can listen to my episode and 79 others Here.

Catalyst Con Bound!!!

It’s that time of year again! Catalyst Con East is only five days and away and I am beyond ready. Twice a year I get to submerge myself in a sea of sex positive energy. I have the opportunity to learn from others in the sex ed community and to cross pollinate with sexologists, sex workers, writers, activists, and researchers.  It’s a weekend filled with sharing information, sparking ideas, and working towards change. This year is uber special for me, because I will be speaking on a panel for the very first time!!! SQUEEEEEEE!!!!

It’s too late to buy tickets, but you’ll be able to follow all of my shenanigans and profound learning moments on Twitter. Just follow the hashtags #ccon  and #cconsecret!!

Meet This Month’s Go-Go Diva, Bonita Boogie!!

Photo Credit: Lolita Von Cake

 

Big Bad Bonita Boogie has been on the grind selling, hustlin, shaking white fokes down during her day job.

But YAAAASSS she’s back!
Your Professional want it all, Wanna be Hood Chick, Everyday Cat Lady, Functioning Stoner, Boy Crazy, Happy Hunter. New York City’s #1 Divorced Diva is bringing her crazy ass to Dirty Lola’s Sex-Ed A Go-Go on April 2nd at Otto’s Shrunken Head. Shes shaking her assets for your enjoyment… Which to Bonita means, “Go-go Get Me Money”

She wanted me to mention the relaunch of www.BonitaBoogie.com

Check her out!! You don’t want to miss this girl doing her thang.  #BitchForLife #KissMyThickness #NoBro

Next Show: April 2nd 2015 at Otto’s Shrunken Head

 

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Do you like sex, go-go dancing and funny ladies with amazing cleavage? Then you should definitely join us for the next installment of Sex Ed. A Go-Go at Otto’s Shrunken Head!!!

Sex Ed. A-Go-Go is one part ADULT sex Q & A; one part go-go revue. Once a month Dirty Lola and The Pussy Posse take the stage to openly and honestly answer your anonymous questions about sex, sexuality and relationships in a fun and entertaining way. In between the sex talk we showcase some of NY’s hottest go-go and burlesque performers doing their thing.

We’re back in action and ready to go!! Join us at our new home, Otto’s Shrunken Head, and get ready to be educated and titillated by Dirty Lola and the Pussy Posse!!

This month Wali and The Domster of the I’m Black, He’s White Podcast will be joining the Pussy Posse along with one of our favorite givers of the shimmy and shake, Bonita Boogie!! We’re going to talk about any and everything your little hearts ( or loins) desire!!

Tickets: Here

$7 Presale

$10 At The Door

2 Drink Minimum

Make sure you have lots of singles for our giver of go-go goodness, and for our awesome raffle sponsored by SHAG Brooklyn!!!