It’s that time of year again! Catalyst Con East is only five days and away and I am beyond ready. Twice a year I get to submerge myself in a sea of sex positive energy. I have the opportunity to learn from others in the sex ed community and to cross pollinate with sexologists, sex workers, writers, activists, and researchers. It’s a weekend filled with sharing information, sparking ideas, and working towards change. This year is uber special for me, because I will be speaking on a panel for the very first time!!! SQUEEEEEEE!!!!
It’s too late to buy tickets, but you’ll be able to follow all of my shenanigans and profound learning moments on Twitter. Just follow the hashtags #ccon and #cconsecret!!
Big Bad Bonita Boogie has been on the grind selling, hustlin, shaking white fokes down during her day job.
But YAAAASSS she’s back! Your Professional want it all, Wanna be Hood Chick, Everyday Cat Lady, Functioning Stoner, Boy Crazy, Happy Hunter. New York City’s #1 Divorced Diva is bringing her crazy ass to Dirty Lola’s Sex-Ed A Go-Go on April 2nd at Otto’s Shrunken Head. Shes shaking her assets for your enjoyment… Which to Bonita means, “Go-go Get Me Money”
Do you like sex, go-go dancing and funny ladies with amazing cleavage? Then you should definitely join us for the next installment of Sex Ed. A Go-Go at Otto’s Shrunken Head!!!
Sex Ed. A-Go-Go is one part ADULT sex Q & A; one part go-go revue. Once a month Dirty Lola and The Pussy Posse take the stage to openly and honestly answer your anonymous questions about sex, sexuality and relationships in a fun and entertaining way. In between the sex talk we showcase some of NY’s hottest go-go and burlesque performers doing their thing.
We’re back in action and ready to go!! Join us at our new home, Otto’s Shrunken Head, and get ready to be educated and titillated by Dirty Lola and the Pussy Posse!!
This month Wali and The Domster of the I’m Black, He’s White Podcast will be joining the Pussy Posse along with one of our favorite givers of the shimmy and shake, Bonita Boogie!! We’re going to talk about any and everything your little hearts ( or loins) desire!!
When the incredible photographer duo Constance and Eric asked me to participate in their Sexuality Superhero project I jumped at the chance. It was a joy working with the two of them. I am honored that they asked me to participate and happy that my incessant giggling didn’t ruin the shoot. Hurrah!
New York is about to get a case of the cooties!!!! Our friend Lucas Brooks, Mr. Intellectual Homosexual himself is hitting the Fringe theater circuit hardcore this year. He’s taking his one man show Cootie Catcher on tour all across North America and it kicks off Thursday, February 19th at Frigid New York.
“In this hilarious and borderline-terrifying reflection, Lucas looks back on his many close encounters of the sexually transmissible kind. Through his naked (yet carefully wrapped) adventures, he struggles with his ability to remain sex-positive in an HIV-negative society.”
If you’re in NY don’t miss this show, I know I won’t!! If you’re lucky enough to be in the towns Cootie Catcher is hitting, keep your eye out for ticket info!
Rounding out this month’s Pussy Posse is an amazing woman I met at the Whoopee Magazine release party ( She’s the sexy centerfold in the new issue!!) Miss Brownie Pointe is a bright and shining beacon of permission for body positivity. She’s going to get her shimmy and shake on and answer your questions……. that’s if your brain is still working after seeing her doing thing.
Miss Brownie Pointe, the sweet treat you have to meet, has been enticing audiences for years. Obtaining immense pleasure from seducing a crowd with her slapstick acts and bodacious curves, Brownie found her way into the New York burlesque scene while looking for a new, body positive creative outlet. Armed with a goofball attitude and her tongue firmly planted in her cheek, Miss Pointe has found her calling… THE STAGE! When her muggle life isn’t keeping her busy, she can often be found showcasing her flair for the comedic side of performance art, with a special love for creating acts related to some of her favorite characters in pop culture including everything from Bill Murray’s infamous role in Caddyshack to the lovable stoner Travis Birkenstock in Clueless. Packing more sass, class, ASS and laughs into 4 minutes, Brownie is challenging the way her onlookers perceive sexuality and size with a demanding level of confidence and an infectious smile to boot!
Our long hiatus is almost over, and we’re kicking off the 2015 season of Sex Ed. A Go with one of my favorite sex positive peeps, the lovely Kelly Frost!!
Kelly Frost is the creator and editor of Whoopee Magazine, a bi-annual print publication with a focus on sex and sexuality based in Brooklyn, NY. As a childcare provider and soon-to-be public school teacher, her mission is to provide a safe space for body-positivity and othered individuals of all ages.
Do you like sex, go-go dancing and funny ladies with amazing cleavage? Then you should definitely join us for the next installment of Sex Ed. A Go-Go at Otto’s Shrunken Head!!! Sex Ed. A-Go-Go is one part ADULT sex Q & A; one part go-go revue. Once a month Dirty Lola and The Pussy Posse take the stage to openly and honestly answer your anonymous questions about sex, sexuality and relationships in a fun and entertaining way. In between the sex talk we showcase some of NY’s hottest go-go and burlesque performers doing their thing.
We’re back from our winter hibernation and we have a new home! This will be our very first show of 2015!!! We’re going to celebrate by doing what we do best, so get ready to be educated and titillated by Dirty Lola and the Pussy Posse!!
This month’s Pussy Posse special guest is the creator and editor of Whoopee Magazine, Kelly Frost!!! We’re going to talk about EVERYTHING and ANYTHING your sexy little hearts (and loins) desire!!
Otto’s Shrunken Head
538 East 14th Street, New York, NY 10009
$10 At The Door
2 Drink Minimum
Make sure you have lots of singles for our giver of go-go goodness, the amazing Miss Brownie Pointe, and for our awesome raffle sponsored by SHAG Brooklyn!!!
Last year, while searching for gigs on Craigslist I happened upon a call for submissions to a new sex positive zine called Whoopee Magazine. I answered the call and I made a friend.
Whoopee Magazine, created and edited by the fantastic Kelly Frost, is a print publication celebrating and investigating relationships, gender, sex, and sexuality. It’s an awesome piece of sex positive sunshine and you should check it out. Not just because I love Kelly, but because Whoopee is another beautiful voice in the sex positive choir and it needs our support.
Issue #2 of the bi-annual zine is out now and available on Etsy!! Don’t miss my article on nipple banding!!
As I’ve journeyed into the world of sex ed I’ve met and learned from some amazing people. One of those people is Cooper S. Beckett. Cooper is a sex educator, a blogger, a podcaster and a planner of epic sex parties. If his name still isn’t ringing a bell do yourself a favor and check out theLife on the Swingset podcast and blog. They are a definite must listen for anyone considering a life of ethical non-monogamy.
Last year at Catalyst Con West I had the pleasure of hanging out with Cooper for a while and it was refreshing to see that he was exactly as awesome as he comes across on the podcast and in print. He is honest, open, geeky, funny, and smart as fuck. He ticks all the boxes on my list of reasons to adore someone. I went from fan girl to friend that weekend. I liked him so much that I told him my real name. Yep.
Yesterday, Cooper’s first book, My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory, hit the digital bookshelves. I was lucky enough to get an advanced copy and I honestly couldn’t put it down. As I followed Cooper’s journey into non-monogamy I came across so many moments that mirrored my own, a few that hit way too close to home, and hope that it will all work out in the end one way or another. This book is going to change a lot of people’s lives. Get in on the ground floor folks! One day you’ll be bragging about owning Cooper S. Beckett’s first book.
You did it!! You published your first book! Yay!! How does it feel to be published author?
It’s exciting! I can finally reach those people who don’t read blogs. And don’t listen to podcasts. Though I’ve yet to figure out how to get them to find out about the book! It’s a cool feeling, sitting with a book in your hands that you wrote. I’m intensely proud of how this one shook out, too. Came together far better than I could’ve imagined.
In your book you say that you are “ very positively, very certainly, not cool.” You know that I always thought you were cool, and that this book pretty much solidifies your cool kid status in my book. How do you feel about that?
Well, while I certainly appreciate being called cool, I can’t allow myself to take on that title. Cool is such a funny thing, isn’t it, completely objective, and completely existing outside you. For that essay I’m definitely using cool in the traditional high school hierarchy sense, and in that sense I’m still very much not cool. Played my first Dungeons and Dragons campaign this past week, so any semblance of cool I’ve built up, I think I effectively pulled the ripcord on it. We’re the misfits and losers that Hedwig talks about, the strange and unusual of Lydia Deetz, but very certainly not cool.
My Life on the Swingset is basically a compilation of your writings from the last five years. Who or what inspired you to finally compile your various writings and rantings into one book?
When I saw the sheer volume of words I’d put out and felt compelled (and misguided) to try something “easy” for my first book. I think it was far more difficult to compile and edit and mold the pre-existing content to work together than it would’ve been to write something new. I’ve felt for a while now that it was time to push things to the next level, and a book is the way to do it. This also allows it to act as a semi-memoir. A semoir.
Who’s bookshelves do you hope your books end up on? Did you have a particular audience in mind when you were putting the book together?
If my book is on any of the shelves of the authors whose books line my shelves I would consider it such a great honor. Just knowing that some of the luminaries in our adult sex education field (as well as my two favorite porn stars) have read and loved my book is an incredibly surreal experience. Beyond them I’ve written it to be very accessible. Since it’s in essay form, there may be 60 out of the 75 essays that you can connect with, and that’s just fine. You can skip over things that are overwhelming or scary. You can read it straight through (semoir style, I suppose) or jump around reading the essays that sound interesting. Accessibility is great, because it allows for those who are just vaguely curious about non-monogamy to pick it up without melting their face off like Toht at the end of Raiders of the Lost Ark.
What is one thing you hope people learn from reading My Life on the Swingset?
It’s not something I hope that they learn so much as something they already know that they often forget, that sex is fun. That’s my whole deal, really, that we do this thing, we play, because we enjoy it, because it’s fun. There’s no other reason to do it this way. Procreation is the one part, but if you have sex beyond that, it’s for fun. Too often that message gets lost in the din of conflict and oppression and difficulty, but it’s really what we’re doing it all for, to be appreciated, respected, and enjoy the fuck out of ourselves and others!